Monday, 8 August 2011

snapshots from the first two months

thank you all for your warm welcome to my little boy!

there is so much i want to write about - labour and birth, my mental health, how awesome a dad my husband is - but these snapshots will have to suffice, for now.

he was over 8 1/2 lb when the was born. he only fitted in newborn clothing for a few days. lucky we mostly bought 0-3 month stuff. although he's really, really long, and putting on weight at an astonishing rate. he still has plenty of room to grow outwards into the 0-3 clothes, but lengthwise he's nearly out of them.

we only had to stay in hospital two days, not the five they had told me. and even that was because it took us a little while to get breastfeeding established, not because of any concerns about the ADs.

breastfeeding can be tricky at first. i cried to D at one stage while we were still in hospital that it felt like someone was helping me learn to ride a bike and was pushing me off and letting go - and at the stage where most people realise and fall off but then realise they can do it, i was still falling. again and again and again. but then a lovely midwife realised i was struggling and helped me lots overnight. including arranging for D to come back in and spend the night in hospital with us to help me cope and to help look after J. she was brilliant.

La Leche League are looking for peer supporters in my area. I'm looking into it.

it's amazing how little sleep you can happily survive on when you need to. having said that, he's already slept over six hours a couple of times. pretty amazing for such a young fully breastfed baby.

i said before he was born that i was pragmatic about breastfeeding, that if it didn't work i'd be disappointed but not gutted. i was lying. i would've been totally gutted.

he seems so advanced! he's already been properly smiling for ages. he's even laughed a few times. babies don't normally do that for a good few months.

he hardly cries. i am so lucky. and so grateful when he does cry (thank goodness! it's good to know he knows how to cry when he needs somehing!) and so totally freaked out at the same time (OhMyGod, what on earth is wrong?? please stop crying baby boy! i have no resilience to his cries because i'm not used to them at all).

i cannot figure out babywearing. and i've given up because i'm so scared we'll never crack it, and because i'm so tired. but i really, really want it to work. so i must get back to it.

he loves lying on his mat and kicking and moving his arms about. sometimes when he's crying it's what he actually wants, for us to just put him down already so he can play! he's far too young for that but it really seems to be what he wants.

no one told me about tummy time. i'm really mad that i only know about it from blogs and only thought to google it this weekend. luckily he seems to enjoy it so hopefully it won't hold him back too much.

two weeks paternity leave is nothing at all. D took two weeks paternity and two weeks leave, and now he has no leave left until christmas. christmas is so far away.

he took a bottle of expressed breastmilk yesterday for the first time. accepted it beautifully and still breastfeeding nicely. such a relief.

at one of my antenatal classes the midwife told me that breastfed babies don't need winding. What. A. Lie.

when he was less than 24 hours old they were concerned in case he had a blockage as he was throwing up bright green gunk after every feed. they wanted to put dye into his stomach and make sure it went through properly. D had to hold down his arms while they put a tube into his stomach. it broke his heart. then they took him down to x-ray to put in the dye and take the pictures. he cried so hard. it was heartbreaking. but i'm sure it was far more traumatic for us than for him - i'm sure he'd forgotten about it very soon.

he's huge for his age - following the curve for 91st percentile! - but he's my teeny tiny baby boy. and i love him to pieces.


Kelly said...

Sounds like things are going well! I've been wondering and am glad you updated. :)

biojen said...

I'm so glad you finally get to enjoy a little one in the house. Take it one day at a time, it goes by really, really fast. If it's not too much to ask - could you email a picture?

Hope's Mama said...

When I read the title of this I thought, "two months, she's made a mistake - must be the sleep deprivation - surely it has only been two weeks". But really, two months already! Sheesh, where does the time go!
Ahh, this post really made me smile, and brought so much back. Probably a good thing, as I'm only about two weeks away from doing this again myself!
I too said I would be ok if breastfeeding didn't work. I was lying. Thankfully it eventually did, but it took a damn long time. People told me it would take a few weeks to establish. Other said six weeks. Some even said a couple of months. It really was about 12 weeks before we hit our straps and before I stopped crying at every feed, but we got there and it was worth all the blood sweat and tears and I was so proud of myself to be able to feed him until he was 15 months (until he weaned when I got pregnant again).
You're lucky if he's not much of a crier! Angus spent the best part of his first 3-4 months on earth crying! He was a terribly unsettled baby and that was only making me more unsettled, so take all of those smiles and giggles and make the most of it. Sounds as if you are.
And I'm hoping to have a better go at baby wearing this time as well. Just never found the right carrier, never really got in to a groove. I've done a bit more research this time and plan on trying out a few more styles of carriers, so hopefully it comes a bit easier. Hoping the smiles and feeing do as well!
Lovely to see you posting, especially under these lovely, sleep-deprived circumstances.

car said...

BFing is tough to learn (I had cracks for weeks) but so worth it if you can figure it out. And the nurse who said you didn't need to wind (here we say burp) a bf baby? She's nuts. I'm glad that you are enjoying him and that he is growing and thriving.

Merry said...

I can absolutely assure you that not knowing about tummy time will not hold him back at all :)

You know you can trust me ;)

Hanen said...

Gorgeous snapshots B - you sound absolutely smitten! Glad to hear things are going well - and that you are managing the challenges. xxxh

Big Love, Big Acceptance - or so I say said...

Oh - love the update! I've been wondering how you all are doing! :)

trousers said...

Great to read this and see how you're getting on: a beautiful snapshot, all summed up by those last 12 words :)

Catherine W said...

R was a similar weight and is also long. His toes start busting out the ends of sleepsuits long before he fills them up outwards.

So glad you only had to stay in hospital a couple of days. It isn't much fun.

Sorry that you had trouble getting going with breastfeeding, glad that you managed to get some help. And they let D stay overnight! That's great. I'm sure you'd be a great peer supporter for LLL. I know a part of me would have been upset if I hadn't been able to breastfeed as it is such a lovely, bonding thing and I couldn't breastfeed J for so long, just had to pump :(

R sounds so similar to your little man. He sleeps well too. But he does NOT like taking a bottle of expressed milk.

Don't worry about the babywearing. I've already given you my 2ps worth about that so I won't do it again!

I'm so sorry about all the bright green gunk stuff and having to have dye put through his stomach. That must have been so distressing and awful. But they really, truly don't remember.

Lovely to read your update!